newly diagnosed or exploring?

Diagnosis, Assessment, and Next Steps

How do I get assessed for autism or ADHD as an adult (or for my child)?
Start by contacting a psychologist, neuropsychologist, or physician who offers diagnostic assessments. In Canada, you can pursue public (waitlisted) or private options. Ask about their experience with neurodivergent women and adults.

→ Learn more: “Adult Autism & ADHD Assessments in Canada: What to Expect” (Blog post coming soon!)

What happens during an assessment?
It typically involves interviews, questionnaires, developmental history, and cognitive or behavioural testing. The goal is to understand your profile, not to “pass” or “fail.” A good assessor will discuss strengths and support needs equally.

What should I do after diagnosis?
Take time to process. You may feel a mix of relief, sadness, and clarity.

Explore resources, connect with community, and consider therapy or coaching if you’d like guidance integrating your identity.

→ Learn more: “Life After Diagnosis: Next Steps Toward Self-Understanding” (Blog post coming soon!)

Understanding of Self

Why do I feel so overwhelmed all the time?
Neurodivergent people often experience sensory, cognitive, and emotional overload due to a highly responsive nervous system. Constant self-monitoring, social pressure, and multitasking can intensify this. Learning body-based regulation and pacing helps prevent burnout.

→ Learn more: “From Overwhelm to Regulation: Understanding Your Nervous System” (Blog post coming soon!)

What does burnout look like for neurodivergent people?
It’s a deep fatigue that affects energy, emotions, and functioning. It is not laziness. Signs include loss of motivation, irritability, shutdowns, or sensory sensitivity. Recovery involves rest, self-acceptance, and reconnecting with genuine interests.

→ Learn more: “Recovering from Burnout as a Neurodivergent Adult” (Blog post coming soon!)

Relationships

How can I explain my needs to friends or partners?
Start by identifying what helps you thrive (quiet time, clear plans, sensory comfort, or routine) and share why these matter. Use “I” statements (e.g., “I focus better when...”) and offer concrete examples. Real connection grows when people understand your brain, not when you hide it.

→ Learn more: “How to Talk About Neurodivergence with Your Family” (Blog post coming soon!)

Why do I get emotional after socializing?
Because masking and monitoring social cues can be draining. Your nervous system works hard to stay “on,” and when the social demand ends, it releases built-up energy and emotion. Recovery time is part of healthy regulation, not a weakness.

→ Learn more: “Social Exhaustion: Why Downtime Matters for Your Brain” (Blog post coming soon!)

Emotional Wellbeing

How do I find a therapist who understands neurodivergence?
Look for someone who identifies as neurodiversity-affirming, trauma-informed, and willing to adapt to your needs (e.g., stimming, eye contact, pacing). Ask how they understand autism or ADHD and what accommodations they offer.

→ Learn more: “Finding a Therapist Who Understands Neurodivergence” (Blog post coming soon!)

Identity, Acceptance, and Community

What does “unmasking” mean?
Unmasking is the gradual process of showing your authentic traits and letting go of constant self-monitoring. It can bring relief but also vulnerability. It’s best done slowly, in safe relationships or spaces.

→ Learn more: “Unmasking: What It Means and How to Begin” (Blog post coming soon!)

How can I connect with others like me?
Online spaces, local meetups, and neurodiversity-affirming communities can be lifelines. Search terms like “neurodivergent support group” or “autistic adults in [your region].” Connection helps replace isolation with validation.

→ Learn more: “Finding Community as a Neurodivergent Adult” (Blog post coming soon!)

What’s internalized ableism and how can I unlearn it?
It’s the belief that your differences make you “less than.” It often forms after years of invalidation. Healing involves reframing your traits as valuable, not defective, and surrounding yourself with people who see your worth.